How To Be Fabulous. By Yourself.

I used to have issues with too much alone time, but these days I can’t get enough.  I was by myself for most of the day, and I think I’m allowed to say that today I felt fabulous.I’m writing this post as a reminder to myself…what can I do to feel like this again?  Maybe you will benefit too :)

Do your hair nicely.  
Especially after being sick for a few days, I’ve fallen victim to the get-out-of-bed-and-hope-for-the-best syndrome.  Not today.  Today I turned my curling iron on and spent some time smoothing out some curls and make sure I looked polished.
Put something pretty on.
I’ve kept these stellar Nine West shoes in my closet for too long.  Now that the Fall season is here I put on a pair of tights and rocked these heels all day.
Slap on some fierce lipstick.
And don’t be shy.  Today I wore Lip Love from ApotheKerri beauty and didn’t want to stop applying!  The Fall season is a perfect time to start experimenting with bold lips.
Make yourself look better with iPhone editing tools. 
Just because it’s fun :)
Be prepared.
Whether it’s a meeting, an interview or a coffee date.  Give yourself time to prepare and be on point.  That extra 15 minutes you spend visualizing your success will pay off.  You’ll be in the right state of mind to absolutely rock it!  Today I had a great client meeting and I attribute that to my preparation beforehand and by going in with an attitude of knowing I’d rock it!
Go to dinner – BY YOURSELF.
At the last minute my dinner plans fell through.  I was all geared up to go for a nice steak dinner (I’ve been trying to cut down my meat intake but I just needed a steak today).  I was a little disappointed that I wasn’t going to be able to go and was prepared to pick up a burrito on my way home when I said to myself, “F*ck it! I want a steak dinner so I shall have a steak dinner!”
And with that, I went to the Keg, waited 20 minutes for a table, and sat by myself.  Now, I’ve eaten by myself numerous times – but it’s either been in a casual fast food joint, or when traveling for work when I’ve had little choice.  In that situation I just stay in the hotel or pick a local pub or a place where I sit at a bar.  This was the first time I have chosen to eat in a relatively nice restaurant on my own.  Now some people would think, okay just read a book or go on the internet.  I had NO reading material and my iPhone was at 2%.  I was truly dining by myself…
…so what do you do?
Order a big glass of wine.
Or whatever it is you like to drink.  Do what makes you feel special.  Do what you’re in the mood for.  This is your night.  Don’t skimp out on yourself!
Eat as much bread as you want.
I’ll admit, the most awkward part of the night was deciding what was a socially acceptable amount of bread for one person to eat.  Then I just decided to stop caring.  No one was watching me, no one was counting.  Eat the bread until you no longer want to eat it :)
Turn your phone off.
I was forced to turn mine off because, well, the battery died.  But I highly recommend it.  It’s okay to be truly by yourself in public.  It’s amazing what you’ll hear, observe, think and feel when you are just focused on being there in the moment.  Don’t let your phone distract you.
Enjoy your meal.
I mean really enjoy that meal.  Order something delicious and close your eyes when you take the first bite.   Chew slowly.  Absorb the flavours.  Be thankful for the delciousness in your mouth.  Take your time with the meal.  When was the last time you really enjoyed your food without having to talk to someone in between bites?
Listen to the music.
As I was savoring the garlic potatoes I caught myself bouncing my head and tapping my feet to some of the dance music playing in The Keg’s lounge.  Hey, I was enjoying myself!
Watch the people.
At one point I found myself surrounded by couples.  To the left, to the right, in front, and beyond.  My first reaction was “oh great”…but then I decided to stop any negative feelings.  Instead I observed.  I watched them laugh, I watched awkward moments, I watched hands being held…and I smiled.  I love watching people.  I love seeing different relationships in action and guessing what they are saying to each other.  At that point I was thankful to be by myself so I could sit back and observe.  Funny thing I noticed – as soon as any one person was left alone at the table, he/she quickly pulled out his/her phone and started texting or checking email.  I chuckled to myself – I guess not many people can be okay with being by themselves 😉
Eat dessert.
I wish I could have taken a picture of my espresso cup with mini brownie.  It was too cute.  Hey, if you’re going to wine and dine by yourself, DO IT UP!
Believe you are fabulous.
If you still can’t possibly imagine sitting in a packed restaurant by yourself, try imagining you are someone else.  Anytime I felt awkward I thought of Liz Gilbert in Eat Pray Love and her moments in Italy, just enjoying the environment around her.  Maybe you want to feel like you are SJP or someone else fabulous?
Also, no one knows your story.  No one knows why you are by yourself.  Maybe you are a traveler and this is your dinner stop before moving on.  Maybe you are celebrating a special moment.  Maybe you are a food critic and are researching for a review.  Or maybe you are just someone who is looking to enjoy a good meal.  It doesn’t matter.  You are fabulous and when you believe it, others will too.  Being by yourself will be the last thought on your mind.
Have no regrets.
When you are finished, leave a good tip, grab a mint and walk out the door with a smile on your face.  Don’t regret anything.  Be thankful that you are strong enough to feel this way without needing anyone to reinforce it.  Know that everything you do in life has a purpose and tonight your purpose was to enjoy a great meal with yourself.  Be proud.  You are strong on your own and can do anything you want.
THAT is how I felt fabulous today.

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